I have a 5 year old and my husband always reprimands me for helping him with basic tasks like dressing himself, etc. Even though it feels harsh, I have to agree that if I always keep helping then our kid will never learn to do anything himself. So look at it as the SCN equivalent of the same. Learn to help yourself.
It sucks when your post gets rejected, I get it. But take it as a learning experience and move on. Rules are rules and they apply to anyone. Continuing the same behavior and expecting some special treatment for "aspirants" will get you nowhere on SCN or in real life, for that matter. It'd just make you a "roadblock" on your own road.